Understanding and forgiveness

“There is a saying that to understand is to forgive, … but that is an error… . You must forgive in order to understand. Until you forgive, you defend yourself against the possibility of understanding. … If you forgive, … you may indeed still not understand, but you will be ready to understand, and that is the posture of grace.”  —  Marilynne Robinson, Home. Picador: 2008.